[M]y friend gave a template for how to handle friends who are not family. We really need to stand our ground. If the people we call friends do not respect us enough to allow us the space and personal dignity to hold our own beliefs and act on them, then the friendship is on sick and sad grounds.
I know from personal experience how painful this is. But there is nothing we can do but let them go.
That also goes for priests who have parishioners walk out on them when they teach what the Church teaches about marriage from the pulpit. Many of these walkers away will walk back later. But whether they do or not, priests must still teach the truth. …
Family members are a bit more difficult. … Children, in particular, are too willing to use their parents’ love for them, a love they do not doubt or they wouldn’t do this, as a form of blackmail. “If you love me, you’ll desert your faith and back gay marriage.”
Chose me, or chose Christ.
That is the thing in the balance.
All I can say is that you must never stop loving people because they are jerks and bullies. But no one — no one – can be put between you and Jesus. Jesus has to be your first loyalty.
That doesn’t mean you lecture them or even try to get them to change. Even if you do this with the intention of saving their souls, it is still the wrong thing in this circumstance. They are too set on their downward path to listen. Their ears are stopped and their hearts are hardened.
All you can do is love them and continue to love them and reach out to them in love. That, and keep the faith with your faith in your own life.This is where we come to understand what the scripture meant in Matt 5:
30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.Also, Matt 10:
34 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.
35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.
36 And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household.
37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
38 And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.
39 He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.Those who would be disciples of Christ have already got our instruction: the price of discipleship is everything, including friends and family, if it comes to that, but as Ms. Hamilton observes, the decision to break things off with family has to come from them, not from you. Don't toss out your kid for being gay or even being gay married.
Friends who won't respect your religious autonomy aren't actually friends and can be let go, however painfully. If any hatred and anger is to be generated, let it come from those who are merely following the example of THEIR master, and by "them" I mean those who are happy to dump steaming piles of name-calling, rage, and contempt upon Christians, whom they didn't particularly respect in the first place.
There are plenty of SSM supporters from all over the believing spectrum — atheist to agnostic to saint — who are NOT cool with trashing the losing side, NOT at all happy to see religious liberty curtailed (because they know their liberty of conscience is bundled up with everyone else's), and NOT impressed with SCOTUS overreach and the implications it holds for the rule of law.
Furthermore, they know our society, they know the Left, they know how dirty they fight, and they know that what the Left is after, ultimately, is to silence all dissent while they accrue ever more power into their hands, whether that dissent be religious or secular.
before things get worse, I must thank the atheists and agnostic for being "righteous Gentiles" and to the believers who support SSM, thank you for not attributing our objections to bigotry. I understand your reasons for accepting SSM even if you don't understand mine for saying no.
It's gonna get ugly. We need all the moral support we can get. INCLUDING from decent Muslims who love religious liberty. So let's not alie